Monthly Archives: December 2009

the rim of the glass

every day with a spinal cord injury is a day that gives you cause to reflect on whether the glass is half-empty or half-full, but the holidays are particularly so. i certainly have much to be grateful for, but look…let’s be honest…there is just no way that this is the christmas season carol and i...

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December 27, 2009 - 5:13 pm

JJ - Excellent description of what many of us feel but do not have your gift of describing.

December 27, 2009 - 5:22 pm

Dustin - Excellent observations and very well written (as always). Watched pots never boil, right? Counting chickens never really helped anyone either…

December 27, 2009 - 6:43 pm

kate - Wow, Will, you have such a gift with words. Your thoughts are packed with emotion, thought provoking looks at our inner self, and motivation for us all to find the swimmer in ourselves when things aren’t going as we have planned. We all need to hear/read that and know that whatever our/your situation is, don’t give up. You are an inspiration to me and others and I can’t thank you enough.
Thanks for having the gift to make us “see” through your words and thoughts.

December 27, 2009 - 8:31 pm

Cheryl Wilmeth Howell - Great Blog post.. never really looked at the glass that way. The rim does sound better. just found this blog thanks to Monica posting it on facebook. Sorry to hear of your accident but sounds like you have the best attitude to overcome any obstacle that gets in your way.. My husband raced for years and had several breaks along the way, so I know how Carol must have felt. It’s great you have someone so strong standing by your side..I will pray for your quick recovery.

December 28, 2009 - 6:38 am

carol - looking forward to christmas 2010 with you baby…can’t wait

December 28, 2009 - 8:08 am

Jonie Smith - Your words are very meaningful to anyone who’s ever wanted to give up. Don’t.

December 28, 2009 - 9:31 am

thomas - having many bad christmases myself, i too have often asked the question of is the glass of my life half full or empty? not to say that have been through anything like you, cause i haven’t. but the answer i have found for myself is that the glass simply is half. or what ever the amount you have in it. what we do next will determine if we add to it, or take away from it. and from everything i can tell you and carol are adding to it everyday, and everyday is fight you are both fighting together. i wish you the best and you guys are always in my thoughts and prayers. know that i love you both very much. i had hoped to have seen you both by now, it’s just been financially tough.

December 28, 2009 - 10:01 am

Cheri Murphy - Life is an adventure that takes us on some amazing journeys. Some of those journeys are great fun and easy. Some of our life journeys will be harder than anything and we will never be the same as a result of that adventure. You and Carol are on a journey that will change you, grow you and cause you do look at life in a new way. I am excited to see all that will happen for both of you as we end 2009 and journey into 2010. I look forward to our friendship growing as we all face the storms of life. Who knows maybe we can take a fun adventure together in 2010. I love checking your updates. Cheri

December 28, 2009 - 10:13 am

Marco - Two weeks ago, Will, you walked 700 steps and now its 1000. The tide keeps rising in your glass through your efforts and determination. Keep up the good work. I rode with Steve yesterday, he was sporting a new Alpine Stars neck restrain system. I’ll be getting one also as soon as I get back to Austin. Love you guys and hope to see you again soon.

December 28, 2009 - 11:36 am

Rebecca - I think you will be amazed next Christmas with how far you’ve come. Last Christmas I had just recently started walking without a cane, but still couldn’t climb a flight of stairs. The 3 steps I had to negotiate to get anywhere in our house was still a nightmare. We didn’t have a Christmas tree…I couldn’t climb a ladder to decorate it. This year I was decorating the tree, when I suddenly realized I was at the top of the ladder and hadn’t even thought about climbing it. I nearly started crying…remembering where my health had been a year ago. When you stop thinking about the everyday challenge nearly every minute of the day. That’s when the glass is full again, I think.

December 28, 2009 - 1:16 pm

Keith - I am proud of you brother and I miss you both. I dont do very well with words so ill just say this… I hope that if the day ever comes that I am faced with adversity like that… Well i hope I have a 10th of the heart and determination that you do brother. Love ya man… Stay strong and dont quit.

December 28, 2009 - 2:02 pm

Judy - So proud of you Will….you are here to tell about your feelings! You are a miracle and a blessing! Love you…

December 28, 2009 - 8:22 pm

LawDog - I really don’t have to tell you how I feel. You pretty much know that by now. I still believe what I told you a couple of months ago… that you are already healed, your body just hasn’t caught up yet.

I talk frequently to kids in trouble, defendants, folks with family law problems, and just about every other person who has shit wrong in their life. I always ask them what they “know”

What I know about you brother is this. I don’t need to tell you not to quit. I know you won’t. Ever. I don’t need to tell you to get your mind right. I knew it was right (sort of..) from the beginning of all this. I know that nothing short of 100% will ever satisfy you in this ordeal. I know that you are in pain and that some days suck, but, more importantly, I know you feel what you write and that unless I show up and drink it, your glass will always be half-full. Get some.

December 29, 2009 - 9:24 am

Jimmy Allison - will i always enjoy your insight. you are much wiser than your years. It’s not what happens to us in life, it’s how we react to what happens to us. You are an inspiration.

December 29, 2009 - 11:55 am

Amanda B - hey cousin. life becomes more interesting when we are forced to slow down, doesn’t it? i look at each day now like an onion, just peeling off one layer at a time, to revel in the fresh new layer beneath, sometimes crying along the way…sometimes holding my breath, but with each new shiny layer comes a new day, with new hope and new opportunity to make this one count more than the last. stay strong… your body will catch up soon.
much love to you and carol. M

December 30, 2009 - 7:39 am

Stacey Price Melzer - will, you do inspire people. your strength knows no bounds and your resolve doesn’t falter. be proud of our accomplishments and keep plugging away. you have our prayers and our best wishes, always!

January 2, 2010 - 10:17 pm

Jaime - Will~ you have an incredible way with words. Many prayers and thoughts to you, Carol and family.

January 3, 2010 - 10:40 am

Kirsten Kelley - That was gorgeous. re: the 1/2 full / 1/2 empty observation that so many toil with, comfort themselves with, hide behind, ‘…purely academic, possibly pointless.’ -i loved this in particular. sometimes i hurt, & i want to be allowed to hurt w/o pushing it away or choosing denial. i won’t linger on the pain, but i don’t want to rename to pretend i live in the world of ‘Hallmark’. Love you :)

January 4, 2010 - 9:22 pm

amy foshee holmes - Will, so good to hear your voice this week. I’m feeling really blessed after catching up with you through your blog. I’ve always known you are a very special person, but you are really going all out to prove it. I am honored to be one that can say “I know that guy”. Yep, you have what it takes and I look forward to seeing you grow through this challenge. You are here for great things. Your strength and courage are a blessing to the rest of us treading water.

January 5, 2010 - 2:14 am

Phil White - Will, can’t say that I have met you, but I was introduced to you, in conversation, by Kirsten and feel that I have gotten acquainted with you through her. To use your “battle” metaphor, there cannot be a war without battles and cannot be battles without adversity. Having loosely followed the your story through Kirsten and reading your ½ empty, ½ full blog, it does sound like you have some battles ahead of you, but the one thing that is not and can never be foretold is how long the war is going to wage. I want to encourage you to realize that ABSOLUTELY no matter how small the battle is a victory is a victory and you have to win the small little known battle to get to the larger battles and greater victories. I cannot sit here and type these comments and tell you that you will win the war only because I can’t see the future. I have not had a life changing experience like you and I have my own battle to fight and subsequently win or lose. This goes for all people out there the only difference is that we have chosen to take control of the battles and fight, where as many other let the battles control them and expect the Cavalry to ride in and to bail them out when the battle starts to turn. Having typed that lengthy analogy, I want to say that WE are the only ones that can judge the level of our glass. People can make their perceptions, and sometimes to the point of being rude and pushy, but ultimately your glass is your glass and mine is mine. As for me my glass is completely full, it holds both substances that I must have to continue to fight my battles, water and air! Best of wishes, my thoughts and prayers!

January 5, 2010 - 9:18 am

Giorgia A. - Thank you for having the courage to share how you feel. There is a lot of strenght in that. Keep hanging in there.

January 16, 2010 - 8:14 am

RE - Regarding your Jan 5 comment on your own writing – metaphors/analogies are hard to compose with clarity for the underlying meaning. I think you did it. Have you read any of EB White’s work? CS Lewis?

January 5, 2010 - 3:56 pm

everlasting gratitude » f2point8 - [...] i wrote “the rim of the glass” i told carol i wasn’t sure if it was any good or if people would understand what i was trying to [...]

next steps

wow… where do i even begin? it’s been so long since i’ve blogged, that i practically feel like a stranger in my own space. a lot has happened, the most important of which was my 11/20 discharge from craig and arrival at my new home in indiana. there’s been lots to write about, but the...

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December 16, 2009 - 5:10 pm

RE - the folks who got carol’s recent email update are happy for your progress – and this news via your own hand makes us even more thankful. i wish i could see you, brother will.

December 16, 2009 - 6:16 pm

James Otto - Will, I am glad to see you are working hard to get better and that work is paying off. Keep going!

December 16, 2009 - 7:22 pm

cliff mautner - Will, you’re truly amazing, and I have no doubts you’ll meet your goals. I hope to speak with you sometime soon.

December 16, 2009 - 7:25 pm

Jonie Smith - Well, you are just doing better than I (in my limited knowledge of things up there)could have imagined. I totally believe it’s due to your strength of heart and mind. Never have met you, but I can tell you are the exception to the rule. Your blessed to be young and strong (and have a wonderful partner!) I’m praying for your nerve pain meds,for strength and a tough MA for both of you.

If I don’t communicate before Christmas, I hope yall have the best (in your new home :)

Jonie

December 16, 2009 - 9:22 pm

Jeff D - Holy crap Will! You are making tremendous progress. I know you will do all of the things you said. No doubts. Keep kicking ass.

December 17, 2009 - 5:35 am

crystal - great job! can’t wait to see the progress in person after the first of the year. we are proud of you. keep up the good work.

December 17, 2009 - 9:01 am

stephen powelson - Dude! That rocks , I knew you would be back on two feet before too long! Great job bro! Keep it up

powelson

December 17, 2009 - 9:11 am

Karl - Will, that is so awesome!! Keep going foward!

December 17, 2009 - 10:26 am

Laura - Will Im so glad to hear you are making such great progress!Im not surprised though. You have such strength! I know Marco is so excited to be going up for his visit. I send with him a big hug for both You and beautiful Carol.

December 17, 2009 - 10:28 am

Sam - “Amazing Will” is your new name. I am so proud of you Will keep on pushing. Love you guys!

December 17, 2009 - 10:36 am

David M - Dude, keep up the progress. I have only had the privilege to visit with you on one occasion at the MX Nationals in Freestone, but you left a very positive impression on me during the short time we spoke. My heart and prayers go to you and your family to give you the strength to recover and get back to living life the way it should be. God Bless ya Brutha!!

Dave
Team Ghetto

December 17, 2009 - 10:37 am

Motodad393 - Hello Will,
I am glad to hear and see you doing so well. It is my hope that you continue to progress in the great manner you have. You are an inspiration to us all and you are fortunate for a partner like Carol.

Keep fighting……. Happy Holidays to all

Mike Berg
“Motodad393″

December 17, 2009 - 10:43 am

big lou - you go, boy! keep kickin’ ass. :)

December 17, 2009 - 10:44 am

Hoyt - Awesome job Will, you are a fighter and I know you will overcome your goals. Keep up the fight.

December 17, 2009 - 10:53 am

Tabbie - Hi Will! I am so thrilled to hear of your progress. I knew if anyone could do this you could! Keep up the hard work and I will continue to pray for your complete healing.

December 17, 2009 - 10:54 am

Kristen - ya know, I would like to say that i’m impressed by your progress, but in reality, i expect nothing less from you! .. This injury is much like the weather I think .. you can let it dictate what you want to do, or you can deal with it, and your doing just that – n good ole’ Will pattison style! .. i’ve never met anyone that does “life” with more heart, drive or passion and this is just one more way you prove the person that you are. as Christmas draws near i am reminded of what the season is about and what really means the most to me .. Jesus, my loving family and my amazing friends! .. I wish you a very merry christmas and a New Year full of gigantic improvements ! – :o ) Luv u 2 and i will call you next week!

December 17, 2009 - 10:56 am

Karen and Steven Cheney - you are an inspiration to us. you are like the little train that could. you never give up, never surrender-thanks! keep on keepin on. kc

December 17, 2009 - 11:06 am

Fred Oberer - Will – you are an inspiration. Your strength, attitude, and determination are your allies. They are THE REASON you will ultimately win the war, not simply today’s battle. Keep believing. You have me praying for you daily.
Fred

December 17, 2009 - 11:08 am

Callie - magical, magical, magical

December 17, 2009 - 11:21 am

Mike Hawkins - Will, you are an inspiration to many people. You are very much appreciated and in my prayers.

December 17, 2009 - 11:37 am

Vic - Will, I pray everyday for your recovery and with your determination, I’m sure you will meet your goals.

December 17, 2009 - 11:45 am

Fred Bramblett - Hey,
Great to hear the progress and to see the photo of you walking. I know it is still a real battle, but I know you are up to it. Heading down to Mexico in Jan. with friends from KY/OH and plan on meeting up with your big brother at the canyon area for a 10 adventure ride (Every ride in Mexico is an adventure for sure). If should be fun and would be more fun if you were there to share in the adventure. You can have a pass this year given everything, but next year I want to see you on the trip.

Fred

December 17, 2009 - 11:45 am

doug otts - Will – I’m proud of you, but not surprised. If you remember, one of the first things I said to you in college when I first met you and while we were suite mates in Alumni dorm was how inspirational you are as an independent person dedicated to the things you believe in. When you’re passionate about something you can be one of the most stubborn people I know when it comes to getting what you want/believe in, and this journey is no exception. The first thing I said when I first learned about your injury was “if anybody can do it, it is Will”. I sincerely mean that. Congratulations and keep setting extreme stretch goals…you will get there! doug otts

December 17, 2009 - 11:49 am

Jonie - Cannot tell you how happy I am to hear this good news. You are really something — you both are. I know it takes a lot of strength in mind, body and spirit to make these kinds of strides. Hang in there. Hope yall have a great Christmas there in your new home.

December 17, 2009 - 11:54 am

Bruce Vermeulen - Keep pushing! Since our very first visit I’ve been watching your remarkable drive and determination propel you forward through this rehab process. Thank you for sharing your story and for being such an inspiration to others!

December 17, 2009 - 12:35 pm

christy myrick mattingly - we are inspired by your steadfast determination to be the victor in this physical, emotional and spiritual war! “i press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me.” phil 3:14a press on brother!

December 17, 2009 - 1:18 pm

Jimmy Allison - Andale pues, Will.

December 17, 2009 - 1:20 pm

nick - keep up the good work will!!!

December 17, 2009 - 2:04 pm

DR. Jon Kolbensvik - Keep it up big boy , I expect that leg thrown over a 1-800-RUA-GURU , Ching-Shin, Honda CR 450 R ready to really hook up!
Love Dr. “K”

December 17, 2009 - 2:06 pm

rICK dORFMEYER - Where in Indiana Dude?

December 17, 2009 - 2:32 pm

LawDog - You are one scary dude. I thought I was tough. I knew that I respected you from day one, but dude, you are a beast. Keep kicking ass. James

December 17, 2009 - 2:32 pm

Trea & Richard - this, too, shall past…keep up with your good work and we look forward to seeing you next year.

December 17, 2009 - 4:49 pm

Mike Sullivan - A lot of us like to say we “walk the talk,” but your picture is worth a thousand words. Love it, Will! You’re an inspiration, my friend.

December 17, 2009 - 6:15 pm

Mark Bumgarner - Sa-weet, I’m looking forward to walkabout in Indiana.

December 17, 2009 - 6:44 pm

Nat - Yeap, it sounds like the Will I know.

December 17, 2009 - 8:28 pm

Mike Roark - That’s great news, Will. I’m still waiting for the day I see you back at the track, taking those pictures we all cherish so much. Keep up the fight.

December 17, 2009 - 10:14 pm

Jaime - it’s hard to imagine anyone more determined than you! your progress is amazing – keep up the good work! there’s lots of ppl pulling for you. (notice how I didn’t capitalize) ;-)

December 17, 2009 - 10:16 pm

Jaime - ahhh – it seems none of your friends capitalize! love it!

December 17, 2009 - 11:30 pm

sherri - totally awesome–what a christmas gift.

December 18, 2009 - 6:57 am

Bill Brokaw - Your progress is a joy to read about. Your determination is an inspiration. Now if I can make this lump in my throat go away.

December 18, 2009 - 10:15 am

Laura - I read this to my mom, Will, and I started crying. I’m so happy to hear every progress you make, no matter how big or small – cuz they are all HUGE after what you’ve gone through. And I’m overjoyed that you found some meds that will be helpful. I started, and quickly ended, gabapentin. That was horrible. I decided acupuncture was right for me and my arm…and it has been. No surgery for me! Keep pluggin right along, my dear friend! You’re doing GREAT!!!

December 19, 2009 - 12:39 pm

Melody Van Der Hyde - So good to see you are making progress!

December 20, 2009 - 8:01 pm

Rich Rohrich - Sounds like the return of lightning will be in the forecast some time soon. :-)

Res firma mitescre nescit!!

December 21, 2009 - 11:06 am

Brad - Will… all I can think of after reading this last post… I wouldn’t want to be any enemy of yours. Enjoy your Christmas at HOME!